Sex is a natural desire between human body. It’s a common and natural activity. Besides, sex is an enjoyable and meaningful to every human being.Sex is not only about vaginal intercourse.It may mean different to you from your sexual arousal.But whatever it is, you have the right to define it from your point of view.
It doesn’t matter if you are bi-sexual, gay, lesbian or transgender, you may decide what sex means to you.Sometimes sexual interest changes over time, which is quite natural.
Why do people sex
There are three main reasons for sexual intercourse in humans (according to Alex Comfort and others)are:
- relational and
Still, for its increasing availability of contraceptive pills from the 20th century.
According to Richard A. Carroll(a sex therapist, associate Northwestern University psychiatry and behavioral sciences professor) quoted that to ask why people have sex is like asking why we eat. Our brains are programmed to motivate us toward that behavior.
She also added, “We are naturally programmed to do so“. People do sex from their sexual desire.In a society which is acceptable by everyone which is consummating after marriage.Though there are another way-
- Casual reason: pleasure, curiosity
- Emotional reasons: Love/commitment, gratitude.
- The basic reason-having baby which would make popular in society.
- Insecurity reasons: To active self-esteem, keeping a partner from seeking sex elsewhere, or feeling a sense of duty or pressure
- For taking revenge/jealousy
- Making money
How many time should a person sex?
Age is a most prominent fact for sex.People from age of 20s have sex more than 80 times per year than by age 45, and 20 times per year by the age 65. Every year after the peak of sexual frequency at 25, it declines at the age of 25 (3.2 percent).
How many time one should sex, there is no specific number about it.The couple can find out about it discussing between themselves about how and what way they want to satisfy themselves.
According to Dawn Michael(a sexologist and the author of My Husband Won’t Have Sex With Me) said that every couple has a “standard/usual” way when it comes to sex and that’s what one should be concerned about.She also stresses by adding that there is no magic number when it comes to sex.And from her private practice, that number does not match with the truth.”
Moreover, If one is interested and the others won’t, it would work as a substitute for sexual life.Try to make it work with mutual consent and benefits.
What do recent studies state about sex
In Archives of Sexual Behavior published – Native Americans who were married or living together had sex 16 times less per year in 2010-2014 than 2000-2004.
From The General Social (A study based data collected )research over 26,000 American adults who were asked about how their sexual behavior occurs since 1989. The research also showed that overall, the number of sex among Americans had about nine times less every year in 2010-2014 compared to 1995-1999.
“These data show a major opposite from early decades in terms of marriage and sex,” said Jean M. Twenge, (the study’s lead author and professor of psychology at San Diego State University).In the year1990s, married people had sex more times ever year than non-married/living together couple, but by the mid-2000s that reversed again, when the never-married couple having more sex.”
What is the reason behind decreasing
I’ve told you before that age is the main fact for increasing or decreasing sex.Almost 70% couple normally face sexual problem once at a time.But non-interest or communication gap between partners also one of the main reason for it. Also the impotent of men and the menstrual problem of women are also counted as the main reason for sex decline.Besides if anyone never feels good about sex, then he/she might have a sexual problem. Some major problems are pointed out below-
- Interpersonal problems (conjugal relationship problems, or lack of comfort, faith and not open minded communication between partners).
- Personal psychological problems (anxiety, sexual fears or guilt, depression, past sexual trauma/ negative sexual experiences)
- Emotional problem
- Using drug & alcoholic product/item
- Chronic disease
- Nerve damage(spinal injuries)
- Back pain
- Hormonal disorder
- Body disfunction- e,g- irregular blood circulation in heart and lungs
- Defect by born
Besides some other common problem between men and women are given below:
Men’s problem –
- Impotence problem
- Premature ejaculation
- Using too much medication for successful sex life
- Over excitement
- Different lifestyle
- Sexual surgery
Womens problem –
- Loss of interest in sex
- Orgasm disorder
- dyspareunia problem
- Gynecological disorder (Vaginal dryness, Vaginismus, Vaginitis, STD, Endometriosis, Pelvic inflammatory disease)
- Mental Health /Emotional problem –stress, anxiety, depression
- Hormonal change – menopause & breastfeeding
- Relationship – doubt /unresolved fight with partner
- Surgical infection after giving birth
How this problem can be solved
Well, the sexual problem is not a big deal in today’s world.Though I am not telling you that all problem can be solved but mostly can.You just need to be cautious if you want to stay well.Try to talk with your partner about your sexual desire/problem.Find out what is bothering /beneficial for both of you.Consult with the doctor.First, try to point out your sexual problem and write it in a note before going to doctor.Remember nowadays doctor are more friendly than previous.Whatever your problem is they will surely keep it secret and would find a way to help you from this misery.
Another important thing is, don’t use any medicine by seeing add(like-male enhancements /vaginal fixed supplements) whether known it’s trusted facilities recommends from a doctor.If any medicine really needed doctor will recommend for you.Besides, if you don’t want to go doctor but wanna buy medicine, see most recommend website /newspaper what they say about it.